As much as we like to think it is, the wedding day is not just about the bride.
Although most of the attention is on her, the husband is a key part. Obviously, without him asking you to be his wife in the first place you would never get the chance to be the bride.
It's easy to forget about the husband in all the planning. Let's be honest, it's not like he's that involved.
My husband wanted nothing to do with designing centerpieces or picking out flowers so I got pretty use to running things with my mother and bridesmaids.
I literally had to add to my wedding to do list "something for Paul." Unless you have something distinct that you as a couple share and that is known by your friends and family, it can be difficult to make sure your wedding reflects you both. Some couples share one love for something, such as a sports team they can use as their wedding colors, or a hobby they can intertwine into wedding decorations.
But Paul and I don't have one thing like that so I tried to do little things to reflect us both. At our first reception I framed pictures of couples on both sides of our families and at our second reception we had a slideshow sharing pictures of us as children and as a couple.
We took both engagement and wedding photos with his beloved 1981 Trans Am and Paul took all the photos himself of the Door County locations we used as our table assignment names.
But my favorite "Paul thing" was a surprise I had my dad help me with. I rented a 2012 Camaro Convertible for him at our Wisconsin wedding. My dad drove it up and we hid it from Paul for two days until the morning of our wedding when my dad dropped it off to him with a note from me.
The first line of my note explained it was a rental so he wouldn't get his hopes up and he loved it. And although he doesn't admit it now, my dad says he was teary-eyed when he gave him the keys.
He drove it with his best man to the ceremony and then he drove me around in it all day for photos and to the reception. We had it for the rest of the week for our mini honeymoon as well. And I even was a trooper and let him keep the top down as my wedding hair blew all over!
At our second reception we drove his Trans Am to the reception and he even painted "Just Married" on the back.
Another small surprise I did that morning was write on the inside of his tie that I loved him more. Which is something he in I say. And yes, this was a Pinterest idea. One of the many that worked out just as I hoped.
My husband literally called our wedding day "perfect" and made a speech giving me all the credit at our reception. But the truth his, he and our love was the inspiration for all of it. So I guess he was behind all of the work, technically.