Area residents share best advice they received from their moms
“Mother knows best.”
Most of us have heard this saying at least once in our lives, perhaps when we were young and our mothers gave us advice we didn’t want to follow. But now as adults looking back, we’re able to appreciate her sagacity.
So today, we offer a collection of wisdom as area residents share their own mother’s best advice.
Sharlyn Bokus of Morris with her "madre" Lucille Spencer of Mississippi. "Don't surprise a man because the surprise might be on you."
Nader Batayeh of Mokena poses with his mother Sally Batayah of Michigan. "You always have something to offer."
In a photo from December 1963, Robert Bergman of Romeville ("The cute one in the middle") helps his mother Betty Bergman decorate the Christmas tree. The family lived in Kenilworth at the time. "She stressed to me the invaluable qualities of teamwork in any relationship, especially with those you love. She also confided in me the need to please your partner in every way that brings a smile to their face."
Donna Billings and her mother Verneeda Jones (deceased) in 1945 when Billings was two weeks old. "When we were awaiting the adoption of our first child, my mother asked me which gender I preferred. I replied that gender wasn't so important to me as the health of the baby and that 'the baby had no disabilities.' Mama taught me that day that 'all of us have disabilities, some are visible and some are not.' What a kinder world it would be if more parents taught that to their children."
Barbara DeLaney of Crest Hill poses with her Pat Figurowski of Joliet. "'Everything happens for a reason' and 'This too shall pass.' Very true!"
Morgan Drdak of Joliet poses with her mother and Diane Drdak of Minooka.
"'Marry rich because you'll end up hating him anyway.' Both Mom and Grandma said that."
Andrea DiVecchio of Shorewood poses with her mother JoAnne DeBarbera of Joliet. • "'You'll get more bees with honey than vinegar.' This was my mom's way of telling me to treat people with dignity and respect and it will come back to you."
Casey Garcia shared a favorite photo with her mother Lee Ann Garcia (deceased).
"There are three people you should never lie to: your doctor, your lawyer, and yourself."
Brenda Gray with her mother Minnie Gray. Minnie passed away in 2003 after a 30-year battle with multiple sclerosis. "One of my mom's favorites was from an old song 'Momma may have, and poppa may have, but God bless the child that's got his own.' She taught me the importance of being able to be independent."
Dulcinea Hawksworth of Joliet (left) poses with her mother Myrna M Laugier of Shorewood.
"My mom always told me when I was growing up that as a lady, 'It is important to be kind and graceful like the queen, and to rule your house with an iron fist in a velvet glove.'"
Polly Sievert King of Missouri (soon-to-be Romeoville) and her mother Marie Sievert of Missouri. "She had me learn how to cross stitch, needlepoint, embroidery, sew my own clothes and a multitude of other crafts. Based on most of these experiences, I am who I am today: a mixed media artist specializing in combining fibers with items from nature. Thanks, Mom!"
Cassie Krasuski of Plainfield (right) poses with her mother Hollis Ford (deceased) of Joliet.
"Being a mom is the hardest job in the world."
Former New Lenox resident Justin Marchert of California poses with his mother Anne Marchert, who died in 2008. "It's your movie" and "Go with your highest thought." (Meaning, "It's your life, so live it how you want" and "Make the choice you know is right.")
Kristine Markley of Joliet enjoys a tender moment with her mother Martha Kiester, who died in December 2016. "The best advice my mom ever gave me was to put the Lord first in my life and everything else will fall into place."
Tina Matthews, formerly of Joliet and now of Alabama, poses with her mother Sherry Loftis of Rockdale.
"She taught me to never give up, to always find the strength within yourself to always keep on keeping on and how to be very independent. To have eyes to always see the best in people and the heart to always help someone in need cause everyone's situation is different than yours."
Kristi Petro Niedzwiecki of Sugar Grove poses with her mother Mary Fran Petro (deceased). Born on Joliet's east side, Petro and her husband Elmo Petra (deceased) moved to Crest Hill, where they raised their five children.
"'Trust in God, this too shall pass, and everything happens for a reason."
Kristine Hausler Schlismann of Joliet (right) poses with her mother Susan Wojdyla of Western Springs. "My mom gave me the curse: 'Someday you will have a daughter just like you.' Lightning struck and the earth shook. I can only imagine what is in store for me."
Amanda Wiley Rico of Alabama snuggles up to her mother Elvina Wiley, also of Alabama. Amanda and Elvina are former Joliet residents. "Never depend on a man to get you what you want, work hard and earn it yourself."