The holidays are a time for family; a time of gathering, and a time to bring hearts and minds home. As we all have many blessings to be thankful for, and as the popular song goes “It’s the most wonderful time of the year”; for those who have experienced a death, the carols may ring hollow, the lights may be too bright, the gatherings too sad, and there is an empty space in the circle of the family. The sights and sounds of the season are continuous reminders of what we have lost.
Christmas and the New Year can also however be a time to remember what we still have, the gifts given to us by those we have lost to death. The gift of their courage; the gift of their strength; their gift of sustaining, and the gift of their love.
Each grief journey is unique and singular. You may be overwhelmed by emotion and debilitated by loss. Or you may quietly tuck your sadness inside and walk along in silence, buffeted by the jostling crowd and the frantic activity.
This is the time to take care of yourself. To mourn in the way that is meaningful for you. If that means fully participating in the holiday traditions, then experience them in the best way you can. If that means that you cannot participate in any of the usual events and expectations of the season, then allow yourself the gift of doing what is right for you. Now is not the time for guilt or for pressure. Now is the time for embracing your journey, your right to grieve and the importance of healthy steps.
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