As a funeral director working with families who have experienced a death, I am more commonly hearing questions such as: “What is the purpose is of having a visitation? We’re just going to have a memorial service at a later date? Or even, “We don’t want anything at all?
In many cases, families arrive to make arrangements already planning on not having a visitation. Some common explanations may be; “Mom didn’t want a fuss…” or “Dad didn’t want anyone looking at him in a casket…” or one of the most common, “They said if they didn’t come see me alive, I don’t want them to see me dead…”
Today’s society would not think of attending a wedding without the newlyweds present for the ceremony, or go to a baptism without the baby. We may chuckle to think of showing up for church to that wedding only to see the couple’s photo on an easel, all while the new Mr. and Mrs. may have already left for the honeymoon.
It is however becoming common practice for people to show up for a memorial service without the body present. Or not have any ceremony at all to honor the life of the departed.
A visitation give the community an opportunity to say goodbye. To process that their loved one, friend, colleague etc. has died. It provides a support network and gives others the opportunity to show love and support, as well as extend words of kindness. A visitation also allows an opportunity for more people to participate and opens the window for family and friends to attend. Oftentimes visitations are in the evening or for a period of time prior to the services, which allows people to not necessarily be a part of the formal ceremony, but acknowledge the family personally.
There are many options to incorporate a visitation for services involving burial, flame cremation and flameless cremation, and we are always available to discuss how we can remember and celebrate the life lived.
Reeves and Baskerville Funeral Homes have locations in Coal City, Gardner, Morris and Wilmington, and are available to serve families outside of our brick and mortar locations. For more information find us on the web at: www.Reeves-Baskerville.com